5 Effective Communication Strategies You Can Use with Your Teen



It can be extremely hard talking to your teen, especially with all the recent events that have been going on.


Teenagers naturally test limits and will even sometimes try different boundaries to see what they can get away with. As parents, you want to keep them safe and help them prepare for adulthood by teaching them appropriate boundaries, helping them figure out their morals and values, and by being that little voice in their head that helps them maintain good judgment.


With that in mind, here are 5 Effective Communication Strategies You Can Use with Your Teen


Strategy #1: Control Your Reactions as Best as Possible

The point of this strategy is to make sure you do not react negatively to anything your teen tells you. Reacting negatively can cause your teen to shut down automatically and not tell you anything that they fell will make you angry or uncomfortable. Instead, listen deeply and offer guidance when they ask, and try to ensure that you do not sound upset.


Strategy #2: Be A Good Listener

When your teen is talking to you, ensure that you give them your full attention. Once they have told you their issue, reflecting on what you heard and guiding your teen to the correct solution will help them become aware of what their own morals and values are.

A couple of great ways to practice active listening, is to say, “I think I heard you say ______________” or “Would I be correct to think you meant ______________” or “I was following you up until ________________, could you explain what you meant after that?”


Strategy #3: Keep Your Reactions to a Minimum

As parents, it is important to remember not to quickly judge your teen based on what they are telling you, so your teen will not shut down and stop talking. Remember to keep calm and listen before speaking.


Strategy #4: Deactivate Your “Parent Alarm”

The standard parent alarm yells, “My child is in danger!” Thus, making parents want to rescue their teen automatically before they even know the full story or issue. Instead, if your teen is telling you something you may find alarming, it is best to let them finish talking and ask questions, without sounding accusatory.


Strategy #5: Offer Constructive Feedback

It is best when offering feedback, to ensure the advice you give them is designed to help them shape their own ideas and resolutions, so they will become more resilient and be willing to share more often.


Bottom line, listening without reaction is a wonderful thing for you as a parent, as it frees you from the pressure to always have a viable solution at hand. Instead, it allows your teen to learn how to live their own lives and make good decisions by themselves.

What kind of strategies do you use to communicate with your teen? Let us know in the comments.


David Blumstein’s mission is to enlighten youth to the power of their minds and to teach them to use empowerment as they face challenges in life.

His passion is teaching kids to focus on their strengths, how to increase their self-confidence and how to attract their dreams and passions of the mind.


Give Your Child the Ultimate Advantage. If you are interested in learning more about his services, and how he can help you and your teen live a better lifestyle, contact him at DavidBlumstein@beeextraordinary.com or give him a call at (954) 249-6717 for a free 30 minute consultation.



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